Tolerance vs. Acceptance

Tolerance for temperament is special in a relationship: it shows strong devotion and dedication, but a violent temperament is dangerous, and therefore tolerating a violent temperament is endangering yourself!  Do not tolerate physical tolerance.  My views on verbal abuse and anything that does not involve physical contact is that it is okay.  Many would disagree with this, and I understand and have felt their passion for myself before, but I have transcended the need to be upset over someone else's words.  I know now that they are only sounds coming from a person's mouth.  Yes, words have meaning, but to allow yourself to absorb those meanings and affect your mind is allowing another person to affect you without them physically touching you.  If your mental stability is weak in that this would hurt you and bring you down, your mental stability needs empowerment.  I know that it is hurtful to even say someone has a weak mind, but if I saw someone with no muscles, I would not expect them to be able to go into a gym and bench press three hundred pounds.  Why then would I expect someone with no mental muscle to walk into name-calling argument and not feel bad?