Your mood is whatever you want it to be

Can you change who you are?  Yes, you can.  I didn't used to think so, but...  Uhhh..  Yea..  I changed...

When I was sixteen years old, a man said to me, "No one can make you mad."  I was like, "yea right"  because of course someone could surely piss me the hell off if they tried.  Unfortunately though, I spent thirteen years believing that before I realized that the man was right - only I had the power to make me mad.

What's more is that understanding where certain feelings will lead can allow you to lead yourself to happiness in any situation.

Try this:

In a difficult moment, begin by clearing your mind.  Don't think about anything, any belief, rationalization, feeling, or thought at all.  Your mind should be blank and completely empty.  You are simply observing what is in front of you with your eyes, not your mind.  You are only seeing, not thinking.

From there, observe the situation.  See what is going on.  Do not look for a solution, just understand the situation as it is.  This is one way to understand a problem without emotion.

Once you understand the problem without feeling emotional about it, you can decide what resolution you prefer, instead of letting your emotions take over.  I.e. you see a bug creep out from a crevice you automatically let your fear decide what to do (squash the bug!), but maybe you'd decide differently if you weren't freaked out.

You can also put whatever emotion you want into your head.  This is cool about blanking out your mind.  The situation can be bad and call for upset emotions for example, but after you've cleared your mind, it is like a blank portrait waiting to be painted.  Go ahead and throw a happy thought in just to try it out.  You may find that you can be happy even in an upsetting situation!

Trust me; by allowing your emotions to take over, you are essentially letting them make decisions for you.  Instead, control your emotions, and then make decisions for yourself; that way you don't have to get angry or sad or anything bad while resolving problems!

Live happy by choice!